Last week, as we pulled up at the park in our big van, I saw "the look" on several mom's faces. The "I hate it when a day care comes to the park" look. Even though I just have the 4 littles with me these days, many people think that we have a large family. I can only imagine the comments REALLY large families get. We have heard them all, except the "don't you know what causes that".....because 4 are adopted.
Nowadays, I get different comments than I did with the big kids with me. Some have assumed I am infertile, hence, their reason I adopted these kids. During the summer one time, with 3 littles, I asked if I was the nanny.
Today at the park, a lady who let us pet her dog, wasn't sure who/what I was, so she said "You have some precious "friends" to enjoy this day with."
We've been told that we look like Jon and Kate, I said "I hope not, we all know how that turned out."
On one of the flights home with Wes, (Emmi and Avery were with us), a flight attendant said she thought it was wonderful when wealthy people did good things with their money; referring to our adoptions. Within seconds (to my husbands dismay) everyone seated around us knew what our income was....which I had stated to prove that we did not adopt because we had money. Actually, God has blessed us financially in proportion to our adoptions, each time we have only met the qualifications by a few hundred dollars, but then the income increased the next years, so we qualified again.
I usually do not mind the questions, and being able to gently educate others, I know it is part of the adoption territory. I have always been aware that the children are listening to all the discussion about them. However, I recently realized how MUCH the kids are listening. Emmi has started filling in the details for strangers. If they ask one question, she proceeds to give them a brief family history, ages, special needs, etc. I wonder if the kids think everyone gets these questions while standing in the check-out line?; which is kind of sad. It is also teaching them that it is OK to ask personal questions of strangers, hmmmm.
They question we have received more in the last few months than EVER, is "are they brothers and sisters".......arghhhhhhh!
I know that people are curious as to whether or not they share the same genes, but really.......They are forcing me either tell 1/2 truths in front of my children, or constantly remind my children that there was another woman who gave birth to them, and abandoned them for whatever reason. I have answered with "yes, through adoption", or "they are now".
Would it be rude to say "Sorry, we are not giving interviews today", like the famous people do??? What do ya'll do??????